It is never easy to accept the fact that your child is scared of something. People around you go "oh look at him, he is so scared of something so easy!' Our natural response is fall under the pressure to force them to overcome them by pushing them towards it.
Wait.. Do not do that please.. Do you not have any fears? Did you overcome them so easily? No, right. Then why expect them the same from them. There are ways to help them although. I recently discovered that my son is scared of seas, swimming pools. Let us see what we as parents can do to help them manage their fears better.
Fear is part of being a kid. Help them talk about what's frightening them. If they are not able to explain help them by asking some questions. "What is scaring you? the pool or the cold water?" (It was winter)
Listen to them. Let them know you understand their feelings and take them seriously so that they know they can always talk to you "It's ok. I understand. Let's sit by the pool today and watch the other kids."
Give them time, be patient. Managing fears take time even for adults like us. "Lets try tomorrow again. We can bring some balls to play in the pool"
Always be willing to listen to your child’s concerns and validate them. Assure them that you believe in them.
If you can support them in their happy smiles, you should acknowledge their fears too.
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