Validating your child's fears!

 It is never easy to accept the fact that your child is scared of something. People around you go "oh look at him, he is so scared of something so easy!' Our natural response is fall under the pressure to force them to overcome them by pushing them towards it.

Wait.. Do not do that please.. Do you not have any fears? Did you overcome them so easily? No, right. Then why expect them the same from them. There are ways to help them although. I recently discovered that my son is scared of seas, swimming pools. Let us see what we as parents can do to help them manage their fears better.

Fear is part of being a kid. Help them talk about what's frightening them. If they are not able to explain help them by asking some questions. "What is scaring you? the pool or the cold water?" (It was winter)

Listen to them. Let them know you understand their feelings and take them seriously so that they know they can always talk to you "It's ok. I understand. Let's sit by the pool today and watch the other kids."

Give them time, be patient. Managing fears take time even for adults like us. "Lets try tomorrow again. We can bring some balls to play in the pool"

Always be willing to listen to your child’s concerns and validate them. Assure them that you believe in them.

If you can support them in their happy smiles, you should acknowledge their fears too.

Why I was AWOL?

Hi readers!! I was missing in action for some months..sorry for that,but there was a good reason behind it...I was pregnant.😌😌

I just could not think and write well with all the mood swings, sleepiness and sleepless nights,tiredness.I just made a lot of drafts but never finished them.

The nine months since we first got the news was a rollercoaster.It was a mixture of happiness and anxiousness for me.The repeated scans and blood tests gave me a panic attack every single time.It was easy for people to say that I was a scaredy cat but you need to be in someone's shoes to know what they are going through..(I had some complications...story for another day maybe).

Overcoming all obstacles ,we welcomed a handsome little baby boy on the 12th of January, 2022.When he was placed into my arms it was like the whole world was there in my arms.It was a c-section so it took some time for recovery.

I feel a lot better now, my scar has healed and my energy is back.I am back to blogging now and will share a lot more with you.

Stay tuned for more baby pics,baby products and reviews.The baby fever has just started!! 😄

Book Review - The Ladies Compartment

 Hello readers!

Sorry for being MIA for a long time..work was a little taxing these last few days.

Anyways,coming back..bought the e-book The Ladies Compartment this week.Penned by Parminder Kaur Sharma,it revolves around the lives of 5 women Vaidehi,Tarini,Bhavya,Ramma and Bhaumi.Ordinary women,extraordinary fights.Their stories encompass the struggles many women face unknown to the world.The stories are seen through the eyes of the ladies compartment they travel in every day hence the name.How they discover their power and their true purposes and break the social norms that try to clip their dreams is what this book is all about.

Overall,an okayish enjoying read for short  stories lovers.There is one thing though that actually touched my heart- The Introduction.The words actually motivate you to turn the pages.

"Har Nar Me Narayan 

Har Nari Me Lakshmi".

That's all folks!! Let me know what you are reading this week or any recommendations.Happy reading.

Birthday Ruminations !

Hi there! I love birthdays more than any other celebrations especially when it is mine..😂.

I had made a resolution to myself from the date I actually started celebrating my birthday : Cake or no cake, every year I would celebrate and enjoy this day whatever may be the circumstances and however old I may be. I will pull myself out of my bed that day and acknowledge every happiness I have been bestowed with. My close ones can vouch for this.

I learnt a lot this year, some beautiful life lessons.

• Life is not always a bed of roses. We all have our own share of ups and downs. The important point here is how you approach it.

• Do not judge people. They may be having their own troubles and asking them the same stupid questions only makes it harder for them.

• Do not fall into the "log kya kahenge" (what will society say") trap. Enjoy your days because they anyways do not have anything else in their extremely boring low life. Stay away from people who spread negativity.

• It is perfectly okay to be human and feel emotions. Do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Cry if you want to, feel happy at your own time.

• Life is not a race and it is completely okay if your wishes/goals/dreams do not match your planned timelines. Universe has its own plans , just keep up the hard work and efforts will bear fruits.

• The only thing standing between you and your goal is your will power. Running away from your obstacles will not make them disappear.

• Be grateful for all the good things you have. There are people around you in far worse situations. Reinspire yourself !

That's all folks. Here's to another year older with people who have always been there for me and never let me down!! Thank you for putting a smile to my lips every single day. Also, some shots of my lockdown birthday 😎

Love for Mangoes

 

                    

My Nani's Kheer(rice pudding)

Doi Kaatla(Fish made with curd)-My favourite

Clicking photos to remember this day

Me being me!!

Anger or forgiveness - Which one do you pick?

"The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury" - Marcus Aurelius

Anger, a very important emotion felt by every single one of us. Anyone who says he/she has never felt anger is definitely delusional. There is nothing to be guilty about, people around you will hurt you and anger is a very natural emotion to be felt during those times. In fact, emotions are what make us human. 

The only point to be kept in mind here is to not let the emotion get the better of you. Anger gives birth to some very wrong actions which you will regret later. Being angry is easier, I know. You want to teach them a lesson but then the cycle keeps repeating. They hurt you, you hurt them and the loop becomes endless.

So what to you do? Do you pick anger or forgiveness? The correct answer : You forgive. It is never easy and will never be.  You may not feel right about being the vulnerable one. But remember you are the bigger person here. Deep down you want to treat them as they did to you, but you don't. You do the opposite, you be the correct person here. Forgiving someone does not mean that the wrong doing was ok, but that you will not do the same mistake. It is even ok if you do not want to relate to the person in the same way as before. Redirect your anger into activities you are passionate about. It is more about finding your inner peace and letting go of all that hatred and resentment. The more idle you are, the more your conflicting thoughts will come back and the more difficult it will be to cope with your anger.

Let your actions denote your goodness and let karma do its work here. Forgiving someone may not be a very quick process and may take a toll on your patience and your self control. It is completely fine if you do not feel ready yet because the hurt and pain is just too unbearable. Take it one day, one step at a time.

P.S - This is not in any way a personal post, it is just one of my random thoughts.

My Small Nykaa Summer Haul!!

 Hello readers. Who here does not love online shopping? I am guilty, I do(Beauty products more than clothes). Nykaa had a summer sale and I got some things for myself. Lets check them out :

1) TRESemme Keratin Smooth Shampoo : Somehow I am not very consistent at my choice of shampoos. I mean I do not follow one for a very long time, and that way I know which suits me better. I got this shampoo after reading some very good reviews. I have just started using it and I am happy.(Actual Price : 245 INR , Sale Price : 196 INR)

 

2) TRESemme Keratin Smooth Deep Smoothing Mask : Ok, so I was using the Matrix hair spa tub before this and it was good. The only problem was that it was too big and I could not finish it before it expired. This time I wanted something else and this one too had good reviews and it was at a good price and the quantity was reasonable. I must say this is really good and my hair feels extremely smooth after use ,Not sure because I am using the same brand shampoo or not.(Actual Price : 600 INR , Sale Price : 420 INR)

 

3)MCaffeine Coffee Body Scrub : This is a long wanted buy, reason being every time I thought of buying this I would wonder what would I do with a body scrub? Shower gels are enough. This time though I could not resist , and I got one. Surprisingly Nykaa decided to thank me by sending me a free gift or rather 3 small ones.  I got sample sized packs of  the coffee face mask, coffee face wash and coffee face scrub. Talk about coffee overdose.😆😇

  Now on the products, the body scrub is heavenly (there is just no other word to describe the smell).I use it once a week and it does its job very well. There is a small wooden spoon for scooping the product so that you don't get your wet hands in the bottle.I used the mask also, but other than the smell, I did not like it much. It felt sticky and also was not spreading quite well like masks do. I did not use the facewash and face scrub yet.

(Actual Price : 449 INR , Sale Price : 395 INR)

 

4) Lux Velvet Touch Shower Gel : Lux was the first shower gel I was into when the shower gel craze started. It slowly got replaced by Nivea, Fiama and Palmolive later. This summer, I wanted to go back to Lux and must say it still is good. It smells nice ,does not dry out , has a decent price tag and comes with a free loofah.(Actual Price : 99 INR , Sale Price : 99 INR)

That's all folks! Did you buy any thing this summer? I would love to know more, please let me know in the comments.

7 Favourite Book Series From My Childhood!

I was a complete bookworm in my childhood. I read lots and read fast and read whenever I could. I would sometimes read in low light and thanks to that I became a proud owner of an extra pair of eyes aka my spectacles. My father got me a membership in the nearest library and it was like I got my hands on a whole new world. Nowadays, although Netflix has also taken up some of my attention but in no way can it replace my love for the paperbacks and eBooks. I have earlier reviewed some of my Netflix favourites and you can check that out here.

Sharing with you, 7 of the most loved book collections/series I read while growing up :

    

• The Nancy Drew Series(by Carolyn Keene) : An amazing teenage sleuth living in River Heights with her father Carson Drew and assisted in solving mysteries by her cousins Bess and George and her boyfriend Ned Nickerson.

• The Hardy Boys Series (by Franklin W. Dixon) : Two brothers Frank and Joe Hardy who also solve mysteries sometimes assisted by their friends.

• The Famous Five Series (by Enid Blyton) : The books revolve around the adventures of a group of 4 children and their dog.

• The Faraway Tree Series (by Enid Blyton) : The adventures of three children and an enchanted tree in a wood which takes them to magical lands.

• The Malory Towers Series (by Enid Blyton) : A series of stories on a girl's boarding school and the experiences of Darrell Rivers and later her sister Felicity Rivers.

• The St. Clare's series (by Enid Blyton) : Same as The Malory Towers, this series is on two sisters Pat and Isabel O Sullivan and their years in the boarding school of St. Clare's.

• The Wishing Chair Series (by Enid Blyton) : The flying adventures of siblings Peter and Mollie on their wishing chair which takes them to different magical lands.

Ah, so many happy memories came rushing back while writing this post. So, which one of these was your favourite? Do let me know in the comments below.

P.S The pictures are here are only one of the books in the collection and have been used only for reference.