"The best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury" - Marcus Aurelius
Anger, a very important emotion felt by every single one of us. Anyone who says he/she has never felt anger is definitely delusional. There is nothing to be guilty about, people around you will hurt you and anger is a very natural emotion to be felt during those times. In fact, emotions are what make us human.
The only point to be kept in mind here is to not let the emotion get the better of you. Anger gives birth to some very wrong actions which you will regret later. Being angry is easier, I know. You want to teach them a lesson but then the cycle keeps repeating. They hurt you, you hurt them and the loop becomes endless.
So what to you do? Do you pick anger or forgiveness? The correct answer : You forgive. It is never easy and will never be. You may not feel right about being the vulnerable one. But remember you are the bigger person here. Deep down you want to treat them as they did to you, but you don't. You do the opposite, you be the correct person here. Forgiving someone does not mean that the wrong doing was ok, but that you will not do the same mistake. It is even ok if you do not want to relate to the person in the same way as before. Redirect your anger into activities you are passionate about. It is more about finding your inner peace and letting go of all that hatred and resentment. The more idle you are, the more your conflicting thoughts will come back and the more difficult it will be to cope with your anger.
Let your actions denote your goodness and let karma do its work here. Forgiving someone may not be a very quick process and may take a toll on your patience and your self control. It is completely fine if you do not feel ready yet because the hurt and pain is just too unbearable. Take it one day, one step at a time.
P.S - This is not in any way a personal post, it is just one of my random thoughts.
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